Whether or Not You Think You're Too Old, You're Right
Kicking Down Numbered Doors
Introduction
Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.” This simple yet profound statement holds a timeless truth, particularly as we navigate the third period of life. In our 40s, 50s, and beyond, the easy way out is to let the number of candles on our birthday cake dictate what we believe we can or cannot do.
But what if we challenge this notion? What if we decide that age is not a barrier? What if we kick down those doors and burst into new adventures and learn new things?
Some remarkable achievements in history were accomplished by individuals who dared to start anew well past the perceived prime of their lives. The truth is, we are never too old to dream, learn, and achieve. In fact, embracing new challenges can keep our minds sharp and our spirits high.
Breaking the Age Barrier
The idea that we’re “too old” to try new things is a societal construct that too many of us accept without question—as in, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks”. But science tells us a different story. Neurologists affirm that the brain remains “plastic” throughout our lives. In the world of neurology, the term “plastic” means our brains are capable of learning and growth. This condition is also referred to as neuroplasticity. In fact, engaging in new activities and challenges can help keep our brains in top shape, potentially staving off cognitive decline and keeping us mentally sharp.
The Power of Belief
First, let’s tackle the root of this issue: our beliefs. If we think we’re too old to learn a new language, start a new hobby, or even launch a new career, then that belief will become our reality. Our minds create the barrier. However, if we approach each day with the mindset that we are capable of growth and change, regardless of age, we open up a world of possibilities. This is not just wishful thinking—it’s backed by science. Studies show that maintaining a positive mindset about aging can lead to better physical health, increased longevity, and a higher quality of life.
Keeping the Brain Engaged
Engaging in new activities stimulates our brains, helping to create new neural connections and maintain cognitive function. The saying “use it or lose it” rings especially true for our mental faculties. Learning something new challenges our brains in ways that routine activities do not, which can help prevent cognitive decline. So, whether it’s picking up a musical instrument, learning to code, or simply taking up a new sport, these activities are not just hobbies—they’re investments in our cognitive health.
In his book “Successful Aging,” Daniel J. Levitin underscores the importance of lifelong learning and mental stimulation. He explains, “The more novel experiences we have, the more different ways our brain has to process information, leading to a richer, more complex network of neural connections” (Levitin, 2020). This continual growth is crucial for maintaining cognitive vitality as we age.
Levitin also highlights how engaging in challenging new activities can stave off the effects of aging on the brain. “Learning new skills, especially those that require a high degree of mental effort, can help maintain the brain’s plasticity and improve cognitive functions such as memory and problem-solving” (Levitin, 2020).
Further, if you refuse to believe the myth about being too old to start something new, there are activities that provide multiple benefits in addition to challenging your brain. For example, my wife and I took up kayaking in our 50s. Between admiring the natural beauty, exploring tropical terrains, and making sure you don’t get lost (there are no street signs!), it helps keep our minds sharp. Also, depending on how far and how fast you go, it can provide a vigorous physical workout. Even better, on several occasions, we have enjoyed it with like-minded people, including our new friends, Mark and Lennie.
Another pursuit we have taken up is Trivia Night at various local restaurants and bars. These events exercise our memories, reaching back to identify sports champions from the 70s or songs and singers from the 80s. On top of that, our new friends Chuck and Carol have become our Trivia Night buddies, which adds to the enjoyment of the evenings.
And, since we live in Florida, of course we had to start playing pickleball, also in our 50s. The rapid action of the game challenges our minds to focus and respond quickly to our opponents’ shots. Playing three or more games in one outing can also provide a hearty workout. Another benefit is that the shared court in our community has given us an ideal opportunity to make many new friends in our transplanted home. In fact, recent I saw a note someone had written about pickleball, calling it “America’s new front porch”—a way and a place to build relationships, and a refreshing contrast to the destruction of the social fabric burning through our nation right now.
Late Bloomers Who Prove Age Is Just a Number
History is replete with examples of individuals who brushed aside age-related doubts to accomplish great things later in life. These stories serve as powerful reminders that it is never too late to pursue our passions, make a significant impact, and embark on remarkable journeys later in life:
Colonel Sanders
Take Colonel Harland Sanders, for instance. He was 62 years old when he franchised Kentucky Fried Chicken. After a long and varied career that included stints as a farmhand, streetcar conductor, and insurance salesman, Sanders found his true calling in the culinary world. His perseverance and belief in his recipe for fried chicken led to the creation of a global brand that continues to thrive today.
Laura Ingalls Wilder
Laura Ingalls Wilder, author of the beloved “Little House on the Prairie” series, didn’t publish her first book until she was 65. Her stories, which have captivated generations of readers, are a testament to the power of storytelling and the rich reservoir of experiences that come with age.
Julia Child
Julia Child did not start cooking until she was nearly 40 and didn’t publish her first cookbook until she was 50, later becoming an iconic television chef. Her passion for French cuisine and her engaging personality revolutionized American cooking and inspired countless home cooks.
Grandma Moses
Then there’s Anna Mary Robertson Moses, better known as Grandma Moses. She began her painting career in earnest in her late 70s, after arthritis made it difficult for her to continue her work as an embroiderer. Her folk-art paintings gained international fame, and she continued to paint until she was over 100 years old.
Ray Kroc
Ray Kroc, the man behind the global expansion of McDonald’s, was 52 when he bought the first McDonald’s franchise and transformed it into one of the world’s largest and most successful fast-food chains. His entrepreneurial spirit and innovative ideas revolutionized the food industry.
Julia "Hurricane" Hawkins
Julia “Hurricane” Hawkins is another inspiring example. She holds the world record for the 100-meter dash for her age group, completing the race at over 100 years old. Hawkins didn’t start running until she was in her 80s, proving that it’s never too late to start something new. Her story is a testament to the incredible capabilities of the human body and spirit at any age. Not to discourage others from following in Hurricane’s footsteps, but I’d suggest speaking to your doctor or other qualified medical professional before starting a rigorous physical activity in your later years. But after you get approval from your doc, go for it!
Each of these individuals demonstrates that significant achievements aren’t confined to the young. They began their most impactful work during a period most would consider their twilight years.
Embracing New Challenges
Trying new things can invigorate the mind and spirit in profound ways. Whether it’s learning a new language, learning to paint (as a friend of mine, Linda, recently had the courage to do), picking up a musical instrument, or even changing careers, stepping into the unknown keeps life exciting and fulfilling. Here are some ideas on how to get started:
- Choose Learning Over Fear of Failure: Decide to learn something new each month, whether it’s a hobby, skill, or simply reading about an unfamiliar subject.
- Set Incremental Goals: Break down your learning into small, manageable goals that make the process enjoyable rather than daunting and enables you to see the progress you’re making. As I have learned from my own experience and also heard from my friend Linda, it can be frustrating to learn new things later in life. We may have forgotten what it’s like to be bad at something when we’re just starting out with it. Decomposing your learning goals into bite-sized chunks shows you that you are growing and improving, and it can help remind you to give yourself grace and enjoy the process.
- Join Communities: Engage with groups or clubs that share your interests. Learning in a community provides support and increases motivation.
To provide another personal example of something new we have tried, there’s a community that I’m a little embarrassed to admit we’ve joined: BINGO. Our friends, Bob and Suzanne, have invited us on many occasions to accompany them to BINGO night at their church. Although I didn’t really think it was possible, I’ve learned a few things from these outings. First, I had no idea how many odd traditions and paraphernalia accompany the simple game. For instance, there are rubber chickens to squeeze when “B11” is called (evidently, the 11 looks like chicken legs), and for “I22” you’re supposed to blow your own personal train whistle. Who knew?
Another surprising discovery about BINGO is how nimble your mind needs to be throughout each round. We each play multiple cards per round, and it turns out that there are at least 17 different ways to get a BINGO—nope, this isn’t your grandmother’s BINGO, limited to just straight or diagonal lines. On top of all that, the BINGO caller (who bears an uncanny resemblance to Jabba the Hutt from the Star Wars movies) calls out the numbers in very rapid succession, like she’s an auctioneer. If you nod off for even a moment (which I see regularly), you may miss out on one of your 17 types of BINGO or on a chance to squeeze your rubber chicken.
One final point about this activity: as with so many other things, friendship and camaraderie stand at the center of our enjoyment. We participate with our good friends, and my father-in-law joins us as well (he’s as surprised as we are how much fun it is). More than anything else, the laughter we share on BINGO nights is what makes them memorable.
The Impact of a Positive Outlook
Our outlook can dramatically influence our actions and experiences. Adopting a mindset that embraces possibilities rather than limitations not only enriches our lives but can also inspire those around us. By focusing on what we can do, rather than what we can’t, we set a powerful example for all generations.
Conclusion
As we navigate the later stages of our lives, let us challenge the preconceptions of age and our own self-imposed limits. Like seasoned players who find their second wind later in the game, we too can discover that these years are ripe with opportunities for growth, joy, and profound contributions. The examples of late bloomers remind us that it is never too late to pursue new passions and achieve great things. By maintaining a positive outlook and embracing new challenges, we keep our minds sharp and our spirits high. Remember, whether you think you’re too old or not, you’re right. So why not decide you’re just the right age to start something new?
References: Levitin, Daniel J. Successful Aging: A Neuroscientist Explores the Power and Potential of Our Lives. Dutton, 2020.
